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Crappy programming
Feb. 6th, 2004 10:30 amYeah, I'm sitting here at work trying to do e-training for my new department and the system decides to crap out on me. MEH. Anyhow, I had to come in early today to help out with moving a TV but the manager must have forgotten since he didn't show up. At least I got a little training done.
I spent a while talking to a friend last night who, yet again asked, 'what's wrong with me?!' The problem is I don't think there really is all that much wrong with him.
A lot of what people perceive about someone else is usually based on appearance or other subtle clues. Body language and such. As such, we usually end up doing it to ourselves; we are literally our own worst enemies and toughest critics.
Just because someone is diffeent doesn't mean that they have to be treated differently or should even have to tolerate it. I think the hardest thing to overcome is the way we get treated in grade school when 'fitting in' is the most striven for trait. Few children try to stand out and of those that do, few succeed in not being trampled back into place.
But then again thats what schools are for... making good little drones, not great individuals. So, we keep that in mind too. But then there is the personality component. Confidence in yourself is a great thing to have. Like a lack of it communicates easily too.
Why should someone else give you a break if you can't cut yourself one? Think about it for a moment...If I were to walk up to someone, who was unsure and felt socially alone. Wouldn't I be tempted at least to accept their own judgement of themselves and treat them in that manner too?
I think that's the heart of so many peoples problems really. A rush to judgement. Both of themselves and others. My friend asked me how do I manage to find a boyfriend so quickly. My answer to him was confidence.
The answer used to be 'learn to Love yourself' and that still fits. But I'd go on to say that if you really treat yourself as a worthwhile person, others will too. They'll have to, since you won't permit them not to.
So, my friend, I'll try and sum this up. Believe in yourself. Be aware of what makes you unique. Never apologize for being who you are; to yourself or to others. If you see something about yourself that displeases you, or makes a statement about who you are that is contrary to your own perceptions of yourself; change it. Do not change to suit others, you'll never do it and you'll never be happy.
That's it I think, if you can glean any kernel of wisdom from this, then you may have a chance to understand yourself and the footing to tell others when to 'fuck off'.
*Hugs Everyone Tightly* ^_^
I spent a while talking to a friend last night who, yet again asked, 'what's wrong with me?!' The problem is I don't think there really is all that much wrong with him.
A lot of what people perceive about someone else is usually based on appearance or other subtle clues. Body language and such. As such, we usually end up doing it to ourselves; we are literally our own worst enemies and toughest critics.
Just because someone is diffeent doesn't mean that they have to be treated differently or should even have to tolerate it. I think the hardest thing to overcome is the way we get treated in grade school when 'fitting in' is the most striven for trait. Few children try to stand out and of those that do, few succeed in not being trampled back into place.
But then again thats what schools are for... making good little drones, not great individuals. So, we keep that in mind too. But then there is the personality component. Confidence in yourself is a great thing to have. Like a lack of it communicates easily too.
Why should someone else give you a break if you can't cut yourself one? Think about it for a moment...If I were to walk up to someone, who was unsure and felt socially alone. Wouldn't I be tempted at least to accept their own judgement of themselves and treat them in that manner too?
I think that's the heart of so many peoples problems really. A rush to judgement. Both of themselves and others. My friend asked me how do I manage to find a boyfriend so quickly. My answer to him was confidence.
The answer used to be 'learn to Love yourself' and that still fits. But I'd go on to say that if you really treat yourself as a worthwhile person, others will too. They'll have to, since you won't permit them not to.
So, my friend, I'll try and sum this up. Believe in yourself. Be aware of what makes you unique. Never apologize for being who you are; to yourself or to others. If you see something about yourself that displeases you, or makes a statement about who you are that is contrary to your own perceptions of yourself; change it. Do not change to suit others, you'll never do it and you'll never be happy.
That's it I think, if you can glean any kernel of wisdom from this, then you may have a chance to understand yourself and the footing to tell others when to 'fuck off'.
*Hugs Everyone Tightly* ^_^
